Blog Archives for category Defenses

Are You Over-Responsible With Those You Love?

In this marriage Lynn is always the one who comes up with ideas for entertainment. Al, being more passive, goes… Continue reading »

Does Your Troubled Teen Trust You?

A Deeper Look at Trust and Respect. Do you trust your troubled teen? Usually, no. Does she trust you? Probably… Continue reading »

Beware of Getting “Set Up” In Your Relationship

          Frank and Georgia are both in their mid-fifties and have been married thirty years. They have four grown children…. Continue reading »

Parents: Kids Decide

These days all of us parents are bombarded with media of all kinds about how important it is for our… Continue reading »

Observing Others is Really Important

A Deeper Look at the Pleasing Personality I’d like you to meet some people that I’ve talked with this week. … Continue reading »

Taking Care of Ourselves – Why Don’t We Do It?

A  Deeper  Look  at Self-Esteem.   As Lily and I talked she told me about a situation at work. She’s… Continue reading »

Positive Self-Talk in Place of Defenses

A Deeper Look at Personality and Relationships. Often, we don’t understand how powerful our thoughts are about ourselves.  That’s because… Continue reading »

Andy and Julie

A Deeper Look at the Defenses of Criticism and Blame.   Have you ever heard the phrase, “emotionally unsafe,” but… Continue reading »

Do You Talk to Your Intimate Partner by Telling or Asking?

A Deeper Look at “Talk” in Intimate Relations   When I met this morning with Jeff and Erika, the topic… Continue reading »

A Mother’s Manipulation of a Grown Daughter

A Deeper Look at Relationships — Defenses (Not Listening and Others). I’ve been talking with Rachel, who is now 21,… Continue reading »