Joan’s Booklet

Smart Parenting: The Basics

This is a 32 page booklet containing 80 tips, each one packed full of useable ideas for improving (dynamite) your parenting.

Topics covered include:

A. Baby’s First Needs. (7 Tips)

Parents, satisfy your baby’s physical needs. Then, help your baby toddler/child  to “fit in” and “belong.” As you do this, trust and respect grow mutually and your child  develops well.

B. Child’s Belief Formation. (17 Tips)

Your child UNconsciously grows beliefs. These beliefs are her ideas about: 

  1. how she should be in life
  2. how she believes others will treat her
  3. her view of  the world. She uses these beliefs throughout her life unless she decides on change.

C. How to Grow a Healthy Child/Adult. (9 Tips)

Allow your child to handle her life as she is able.  Teach her necessary relationship skills and practical skills.  Minimize mistakes.  Be consistent, certain and pleasant.

D. Good News.

Your child uses healthy, balanced, internal beliefs and external relationship and  practical life skills and is growing a balanced life. Together you have insured her success  and happiness.

E. The Discouraged,

Resistant Child’s Formation. (18 Tips)

If your child doesn’t find a “fit” in the family, she resists training and gets “stuck”  on her growth path.

F. Understanding the Discouraged, Resistant Child. (17 Tips)

The discouraged, “stuck” child uses negative behaviors to compensate for  not “fitting in:”

  1. Attention-Seeking
  2. Power-Seeking
  3. Revenge
  4. Withdrawal
Parents feel:
  1. Annoyance
  2. Challenged
  3. Desire to retaliate
  4. Despair.

G. Managing the Discouraged, Resistant Child. (13 Tips)

  1. Don’t engage during conflicts.
  2. Recognize your desire to “fix the problem.”
  3. Give attention, recognition and warmth when you child shows responsibility.


As a parent of four grown children and a middle school teacher for twenty years, I am happy to recommend Smart Parenting: The Basics, by Joan Chamberlain, M.S.  This short booklet offers great advice for both parents and teachers, who face the challenge of helping their children grow up to be the best they can be.  Whether you’re new to the kid business (and feeling a little overwhelmed) or a veteran (and feeling a little burned out), you’ll find concise, clear information; sound guidance; and the encouragement you need to handle the job with confidence.

– Jill O.



Below is an excerpt from Section C:


C. How to Grow a Healthy Child/Adult.

24. Let your baby/toddler/child “figure out” her moment-to-moment life as much as possible. Be patient as she tries different actions when she relates to you, others, and her environment. Remember: you want an independent, confident toddler/child/adult who can trust herself. Self-trust grows through exploring, moving through difficulties with good problem-solving skills, and achieving goals.

25. So, parents, intervene and protect your child only in moments of real danger. Remember, you’re training your child to be an effective adult. Think about it: if you “fix/solve” everything, how will she learn to “figure life out.” Critical thinking skills are developed every day as you encourage your child to “think it through.”

26. Teach your child the relationship skills and practical life skills that you use daily. Understand that she needs to integrate these as she’s growing up You must teach; simply modeling your skills is rarely enough. Be respectful and friendly when training your child. If you aren’t, she will perceive you as “preaching, ordering, or yelling,” even when you aren’t. Then, your relationship suffers.

27. Parents, become aware of the difference between relationship skills and practical life skills. Examples: Relationship skills: (1) listening well, (2) sharing and compromising willingly, (3) talking respectfully. Practical life skills: (1) picking up toys, (2) setting the table, and later, (3) doing the laundry.


Warm Wishes For Your Success.

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